I might not believe that horoscopes can tell me the future or how my day is going to be, but I do believe that being born during a certain time of the year can make your personality more prone to certain tendencies. I don’t pretend to understand the science and this article is not designed to convince someone that horoscopes are real.
Instead, I want to talk about what happens when two Scorpios get married!
For those who don’t know, Scorpios are: “Passionate, independent, and unafraid to blaze their own trail no matter what others think, Scorpios make a statement wherever they go. They love debates, aren’t afraid of controversy, and won’t back down from a debate.”
The personality traits of a Scorpio go on and on, but as you can see from just that brief highlight, a couple with extremely passionate traits can be a disaster waiting to happen.
So how do my husband and I, who are both Scorpios, have a healthy relationship?
First of all, we are far from perfect! I don’t think any marriage or relationship is ever going to be perfect though and embracing the fact that we have to work through imperfections is the first thing that helps us.
Second, we have to maintain open communication! Both of our personalities make talking through tough things easy and hard all at the same time. If someone is overly upset, it’s best to let them have a bit of time to figure out why they are upset, but then it’s important to sit down and air it all out. We often make lists of what we can do to improve in our marriage too, and those lists get hung in our master bedroom until what we commit to one another becomes a habit.
Finally, it is important for us to give each other space. I love my husband to pieces, I love my children to pieces, but I need a moment of peace sometimes. That doesn’t mean that I disappear for the weekend, but usually once a week I escape to somewhere in the house and read a book while he takes care of the kids. And vice versa: he goes to the gym or escapes somewhere while I take care of the kids. We both acknowledge that what made us fall in love with each other is our personalities, and we don’t want to let what makes us unique disappear.
My husband and I have a far from perfect marriage, and we are also far from perfect people in general, but we have found a way to make our crazy personalities work together. I think it’s important for any relationship to find out what works best for them. I know some people might think it’s weird that we write things down to remind each other, but we believe firmly in taking the other’s wishes to heart.
I encourage everyone to do some soul searching and discover all you can about your personality. It’s important to know yourself before you can really expect someone else to complete you. That much I firmly believe in!